You're watching your
teen struggle.
School feels overwhelming. Getting started is hard. Their confidence is taking a hit. You can see how much they're struggling, and it's heartbreaking not knowing how to make things a little easier.
You're constantly second-guessing yourself.
Do they need more support or more independence? Are you expecting too much or not enough?
You've read the advice and tried the strategies, but you're still unsure what will actually help your teen.
It's taking a toll on both of you
.The reminders, worry and difficult conversations are exhausting.
Sometimes you feel more like a manager than a parent, and you miss simply enjoying time together without ADHD challenges getting in the way.
You want things to feel different for both of you.
You're just not sure where the best place is to start.
You love your teen and want to give them the support they need to feel happy, confident and increasingly independent. But knowing how to help isn't always easy, especially when you're worried about getting it wrong.
I understand this from both sides.
I'm Trudy! After 25 years as a teacher, raising a young person with ADHD and discovering my own ADHD in my late 40s, I've learnt just how much understanding can change things.
Now, as an ADHD Life Coach, I see it every day.
When parents begin to understand what's happening underneath their teen's struggles, they can approach those difficult moments with more curiosity, confidence and connection.
That's why I created Connected & Capable.
A small, supportive six-week coaching program where parents can learn about ADHD, better understand their teen and discover practical ways to support them, while looking after their own wellbeing and strengthening their relationship along the way.
You want your teen to feel happy, understood and confident in themselves. To become more independent, while knowing they can always turn to you for support.
And you want to enjoy being their parent along the way.

Instead of wondering why your teen can't just get started, remember things or manage their emotions, you'll have a better understanding of their ADHD brain and what's making everyday tasks difficult.

Whether it's schoolwork, screen time, big emotions or getting out the door, you'll have strategies to explore together rather than feeling stuck in the same cycle of reminders.

Less second-guessing every decision. More trust in your understanding of your teen, your relationship and the support you can offer as they grow.

Find ways to keep connection at the centre, even when things are tough. More conversations where your teen feels heard, and fewer moments where worry or frustration gets in the way.

Feel more confident recognising when your teen needs your support, when they need space and how to encourage independence without leaving them to struggle.
ADHD education that makes sense.
Understand how ADHD affects your teen's ability to plan, get started, manage time, regulate emotions and navigate everyday expectations.
We'll connect the science to real teenage life, so those “Ah, now I get it!” moments become something you can use.
Practical tools you'll be coached and supported to use.
Explore practical strategies for homework, phones, communication, emotional overwhelm and building independence.
You won't just leave with ideas. I'll coach you through how to use them, help you adapt them to your family and support you as you put them into practice.
Weekly coaching, connection and support.
Bring your questions, tricky situations and those “What do I do when…?” moments.
We'll talk them through together, learn from other parents and explore your next steps, with gentle check-ins along the way.
Six weeks. Real conversations. Small steps that make a difference.
When your teen is struggling, it's hard not to worry. You want to understand what they're going through, help them find their feet and protect that precious connection between you.
And sometimes, despite all the love and effort you're putting in, it's difficult to know what they actually need from you.
I understand. More than you might realise.
I spent over 25 years as a primary school teacher, supporting young people and working alongside families. I'm also a parent of a young person with ADHD.
And then, in my late 40s, I discovered I had ADHD too! (Well, that explained a few things!)
So I know that understanding ADHD isn't just about learning what executive functions are. It's about recognising how those differences show up in everyday life, in our expectations, our conversations and our relationships.
Suddenly, so much of my own life started to make sense. It also gave me another perspective on what it feels like when your brain works differently, particularly when other people don't always understand what's happening underneath.
These days, I get to bring all of those experiences together.
As a qualified ADHD Life Coach, with more than 2,000 hours of coaching experience, I spend my days working with teenagers and adults with ADHD, including parents who are trying to make sense of things at home.
And there are a few things I keep coming back to...
Your teen needs your support, but they also need to feel understood, connected and increasingly capable of doing things for themselves.
Because underneath all the reminders, worries and difficult conversations, there's a relationship worth nurturing. And that matters enormously.
You don't need to have all the answers. Sometimes, you just need somewhere to begin, with someone beside you.
And most of all, I want you to have more opportunities to simply enjoy being their parent.
I've always known how important connection is with my teen, but knowing that and knowing how to build it are two different things.
Having coaching around connection has given me a real starting point, with practical ways to make it part of our everyday life. It's become something I'm much more intentional about, and that's been a huge shift for me.
My teen's phone used to be a constant battle, with endless reminders and negotiations.
Trudy helped me understand why switching off is so hard for the ADHD brain and how to keep connection at the centre of our conversations.
It's been a real eye-opener!
There's less conflict, fewer reminders and I've got some of my day back!
One of the biggest changes I've noticed is in myself. I'm starting to recognise that 'catch moment' when my own emotions are building. Instead of reacting straight away, I can step away, give myself time to regulate and come back to the conversation when I'm feeling calmer. It doesn't happen every time, but I'm noticing it more and more.
What looks like resistance or not listening may actually be difficulty with executive functions, emotional regulation or transitioning between activities. I can get curious about what's happening underneath the behaviour rather than focusing only on what I can see.
I don't have to have all the answers or solve everything for my teen.
When I involve them in finding solutions, listen to their perspective and offer support, I'm helping them build skills and independence.
Repair matters. There will still be arguments and moments when emotions take over. What matters is what happens next. I can reconnect, reflect on what happened and work with my teen on what we might try differently next time. I'm also learning to be kinder to myself along the way.

Book a free 15-minute call with me. Tell me a little about your teen, what's happening at home and what you're hoping might feel different.
We'll explore whether Connected & Capable feels like the right fit for you.

If the group feels right for you, we'll organise your enrolment and I'll share everything you need before we begin.
You'll be joining a small group of parents who, just like you, love their teens and want to understand how best to support them.

Join me online each week for six weeks of ADHD education, practical strategies, coaching and conversation.
Bring your questions, your experiences and whatever's happening at home. We'll learn together, explore ideas and find approaches that feel right for your family.
Feeling heard and understood.
"I'm noticing that when my teen feels listened to, they're more willing to talk, help out and take responsibility for things."
Tom
Dad of Ollie, Age 17, Melbourne
Responding differently to big emotions.
"I'm learning that I don't always need to jump in and solve everything. Sometimes acknowledging how they're feeling is exactly what they need."
Mel
Mum of Kelsey, Age 15
Understanding what's underneath the behaviour.
"I'm beginning to recognise when my teen is overwhelmed or finding something difficult, rather than assuming they just don't want to do it."
Dave
Dad of Jasper Age 13, Melbourne
The constant reminders, negotiations and worrying are taking their toll, and you'd love parenting to feel a little less overwhelming.
You miss the easy conversations, the laughter and simply enjoying their company without everything turning into a discussion about what needs to be done.
When do you step in? When do you step back? How do you encourage independence without leaving them to struggle?
You're curious about executive functions, motivation, emotions and why some everyday things can feel so difficult for your teen.
Not because you've been doing anything wrong, but because you're curious about what else might help. You're happy to experiment, reflect and discover what works for your family.
Sometimes you just want to talk with people who get it. People who understand that loving your teen and finding parenting exhausting can both be true..
Here are a few things to consider when deciding whether your teen is ready for coaching and whether it's the right support for them. Timing can make a big difference.
Every teenager and every family is different. This program is about exploring what works for your family, rather than following a one-size-fits-all parenting formula.
We'll explore what's happening underneath the behaviour and practical ways to respond, but meaningful changes often take time, curiosity and a little experimenting.
Connected & Capable is about supporting you as a parent. Your teen doesn't need to attend or even be ready to make changes for you to begin learning new ways to support them.
This isn't six weeks of sitting back and listening to information. You'll be invited to reflect, ask questions, explore ideas and try small changes between sessions.
Connected & Capable is an educational and coaching program, not a replacement for psychological, medical or crisis care.
If you're still a little
unsure whether
Connected & Capable
is right for you?
Reach out and let me answer your questions.
We can run through a few options which can work for your family.
Not every day will be easy. There will still be forgotten homework, difficult mornings and moments when emotions run high.
But imagine having a little more understanding, a few more tools and the confidence to approach those moments differently. You ask a question without bracing yourself for an argument.
You're learning how to approach conversations with curiosity.
You can recognise when your teen might need space and find moments when they're more open to talking.
You begin to see what's
underneath the behaviour.
Instead of immediately feeling frustrated when something hasn't been done, you find yourself wondering whether it's a challenge with getting started, remembering, managing time or feeling overwhelmed. And now you have some ideas about how to help.
You don't feel responsible for remembering absolutely everything.
You're exploring ways to support your teen's executive functions without becoming their permanent reminder system. Little by little, you're finding opportunities to share responsibility.
You feel more comfortable trusting your parenting decisions.
You're beginning to understand when your teen needs more support, when they might be ready for a little independence and how to adjust your expectations when life gets overwhelming. And you're not second-guessing every decision quite so much.
You notice more moments of connection.
A laugh in the kitchen. A conversation in the car. Your teen telling you something about their day without being asked.
Those moments might seem small, but when things have felt strained for a while, they can mean an awful lot.
When you understand your teen a little better and feel more confident supporting them, there's more room for connection, less time spent worrying and more energy left to simply enjoy being their parent 💙
Connected & Capable is a six-week, small-group ADHD coaching program for parents of teenagers with ADHD.
We'll explore ADHD, executive functions, emotional regulation, communication and practical ways to support your teen.
But this isn't just about learning information. It's about making sense of what's happening in your own home, asking questions, sharing experiences and discovering approaches that feel right for your family.
And yes, there'll be plenty of opportunities for those wonderful "Ohhhh, now that makes sense!" moments!
Absolutely! In fact, that's one of the reasons I created Connected & Capable.
Your teen doesn't need to attend, participate or even be interested in coaching.
This program is for you.
Sometimes, when we begin to understand our teen's ADHD differently, we naturally begin to approach conversations, expectations and everyday challenges differently too.
And that can be a really meaningful place to start.
This is something we'll spend quite a bit of time exploring.
When conversations seem to revolve around reminders, unfinished tasks, screen time and disagreements, it's understandable that both parents and teens can begin to feel frustrated.
We'll look at what's happening underneath some of those difficult moments and explore ways to communicate, reconnect and work together.
I can't promise that arguments will disappear, but I can help you develop a better understanding of what's happening and explore different ways to respond..
Not unless you want to!
I know joining a group can feel a little daunting, especially when you're talking about something as personal as parenting.
You're welcome to listen, reflect, ask questions or share experiences when you feel comfortable.
I'll encourage everyone to respect each other's privacy and experiences, and we'll agree on group confidentiality expectations from the beginning.
There's no pressure to share more than feels right for you.
I'd love both parents to be involved when possible!
It can be really helpful when the adults supporting a teen begin to develop a shared understanding of ADHD and explore approaches together.
But please don't worry if only one parent can attend. You can still gain plenty from the program and begin applying what you learn at home.
We can discuss enrolment arrangements for two parents during our initial chat.
You're welcome to have a conversation with me about whether Connected & Capable would be suitable for your family.
Some parents are already supporting a teen with an ADHD diagnosis. Others may be waiting for an assessment or beginning to recognise ADHD-related challenges.
The program focuses on understanding executive functions, communication and practical support rather than diagnosis.
Coaching doesn't replace a professional assessment, but many of the ideas we explore can still be useful..
I love this question!
Many parents arrive with plenty of ADHD knowledge. They've listened to podcasts, followed experts, read books and tried all sorts of strategies.
But knowing about ADHD and knowing what to do when your teen is overwhelmed, refusing to start homework or arguing about their phone can be two very different things!
We'll take that knowledge and explore how it relates to real situations in your home.
And because we're coaching together, you'll have opportunities to reflect, ask questions and experiment with practical ideas.
Yes! This is a really important part of Connected & Capable.
We'll explore practical tools for supporting executive functions, managing transitions, communicating during emotional moments, navigating screen time and encouraging independence.
But I'm not going to hand you a list of 50 things to start doing tomorrow!
We'll focus on manageable ideas you can experiment with, adapt and make your own. Because the best strategy is one that makes sense for your teen and is realistic for your family.
Then you're certainly not alone.
Sometimes a strategy isn't quite the right fit. Sometimes the timing is wrong. And sometimes something that worked beautifully last month suddenly doesn't work this week!
We'll explore why that might be happening. Rather than adding more pressure to keep trying harder, we'll approach things with curiosity and look at what your teen might need.
You don't need to arrive with a success story. You can arrive exactly where you are.
Definitely not!
You know your teen in ways nobody else does. You bring years of experience, love and understanding of your family.
I bring ADHD knowledge, coaching experience and practical tools.
Connected & Capable is about bringing those things together.
We'll explore different perspectives, ask questions and consider what might be helpful. There isn't one perfect way to parent a teenager with ADHD.
And there's certainly no judgement here.
In individual coaching, our conversations are focused entirely on you and your family's circumstances.
In Connected & Capable, you'll also benefit from learning alongside other parents. And something rather lovely often happens in groups.
One parent asks a question you hadn't thought to ask. Another shares an experience that sounds remarkably familiar. And suddenly, you realise you're not the only one navigating these challenges.
You'll still have opportunities to ask questions and reflect on your own family, but you'll also benefit from the experiences and perspectives of others.
I know family life can be unpredictable, particularly when you're juggling teenagers, work and everything else!
If you think you might miss a session, please let me know.
We'll discuss what resources or information may be available to help you stay connected with the program.
I'll also explain the arrangements for missed sessions before you enrol, so you know exactly what to expect.
Building independence is one of the important themes we'll explore. But independence doesn't mean suddenly expecting your teen to manage everything on their own.
We'll look at how executive functions develop, why some everyday responsibilities can be challenging and how to provide support without taking over.
The aim is to help you recognise when to offer scaffolding, when to collaborate and when your teen might be ready to take the next step.
And remember, independence develops differently for every teenager
I'll explain the current program fee, payment arrangements and what's included during our initial conversation, so you can make an informed decision about whether it's right for you.
There'll be no pressure to enrol.
That's exactly what our free 15-minute call is for!
You can tell me a little about your teen, what's been happening at home and what you're hoping might feel different.
I'll explain how the group works, answer your questions and we'll explore whether it's the right kind of support for you.
And if another option seems more appropriate, we can talk about that too.
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